So
as I was jumping up & down various situations both experience and other
people's, in life... I had to research a bit on grief...
Someone can be said to be
grief free when thoughts about the events surrounding, and leading up to the
loss of someone or something he had held so dear, no longer generate a negative
emotional response. Those that feel grief over the loss of anything will eventually
recover from grief or will suffer chronic grief requiring professional
psychological assistance. There are two primary descriptions of the process of
recovering from grief. It can either be loss oriented or restoration oriented.
Loss orientation is an
approach to grief recovery that involves working through and processing, some
aspect of the loss experience and as a result of this process, breaking
emotional bonds to the object lost refers working through, and processing some
aspect of the loss experience and as a result of this process, breaking
emotional bonds to the subject lost. This process of constructing a series of
accounts about the loss gradually provides the loss with meaning and eventually
produces a changed viewpoint of the self and the world. Changing the way that
an event is interpreted can allow an individual to regulate emotions so that
thoughts of the event no longer generate negative emotions. Entrepreneurs with
a loss orientation might seek out friends, family, or psychologists to talk
about their grief. But they may also focus their thoughts on the time spent in
creating and nurturing the business and may ruminate about the circumstances
and events surrounding the loss of the biz. It appears that such thoughts could
evoke a sense of yearning for the way things used to be or foster a sense of
relief that the events surrounding the loss (Eg arguing with family, ex
friends) are finally over. While these feelings of relief and pain wax and wane
over time, in the early periods of grief, painful memories are likely to
dominate.
Restoration oriented grief
recovery is based on both avoidance and pro-activeness towards
secondary sources of stress arising from the loss of the loved one. For
avoidance, it is possible that people can distract themselves from thinking
about the loss of someone to speed recovery from grief. Founding a new
relationship, which is the main cause of rebound relationships by the way,
might enhance recovery from the grief over the loss of the previous partner.
However on this one, there is a high possibility of the mistakes earlier will
be replicated because these individuals have not sufficiently learnt from the
loss.
A restoration orientation
is not simply about avoidance, however; it also involves the way that a person
attends to the other aspects of their life. Like learning new stuff, coping
with daily life et al. it refers to being pro active towards secondary sources
of stress instead of being concerned with the stress itself. Such activities
enable individuals to distract themselves from thinking about the loss while
simultaneously maintaining essential activities necessary for restructuring
aspects of their lives. This may apply to an individual who the loss itself
generates a negative emotional response which cause income loss – indulgence,
loss of social status and increased negative perceptions of self. Eg you have
to reorganize yourself & your life to cope without whatever you have lost.
In addressing these secondary sources of stress, one is able to eventually
reduce the negative emotions associated with thoughts of the events surrounding
the loss.
Any of the above ways of
grief resolution have their own effects and costs depending on an individual.
For example the loss orientation involves confrontation, which is physically
and mentally exhausting., whereas a restoration- orientation involves
suppression, which requires mental effort and presents potentially adverse
consequences for health. Oscillations between the two grief orientations enable
a person to obtain the benefits of each and to minimize the costs of
maintaining one for too long. This dual process speeds the recovery process
which is important because it more quickly reduces the emotional interference
with learning.
Starting with a loss
orientation provides an individual the ability to first focus on aspects of the
loss experience and begin processing information about the business loss as
well as breaking the emotional bonds to the individual. When your attention
begins to shift from the event to aspects of the grief itself then learning is
likely to reduce by emotional interference and the individual should switch to
a restoration orientation. Switching to a restoration orientation encourages
individuals to think about other aspects of their life. It also breaks the
cycle of continually thinking about the symptoms of grief; such thoughts can
increase feelings of grief. It also provides the opportunity to address
secondary causes of stress which may reduce the emotional significance of the
loss. When information processing capacity is no longer focused on the symptoms
associated with grief, one can now shift back to a loss orientation and use the
information processing capacity to further generate meaning from the loss
experience and further reduce emotional significance of the person/ thing.
The combination of these
two in grief recovery has several implications. First knowledge that the
feelings and reactions being experienced by the entrepreneur are normal for
someone dealing with such a loss may help reduce feelings of shame and
embarrassment. This in turn encourages someone to articulate her feelings of
grief, possible speeding the recovery process. Second, there are psychological
and by the entrepreneur are normal for someone dealing with such a loss may
help reduce feelings of shame and embarrassment. This in turn encourages
someone to articulate her feelings of grief, possible speeding the recovery
process. Second, there are psychological and physiological outcomes caused by
the feelings associated with grief. Realizing that these are symptoms of grief
can reduce secondary sources of stress and may also assist with the choice of
treatment. Third there is a process of recovery from grief, which offers
individuals some comfort that their current feelings of loss, sadness and
helplessness will eventually diminish. Fourth, the recovery and learning
process can be enhanced by some degree of oscillation between a loss – and
restoration – orientation. Finally, recovery from loss offers and opportunity to
increase one’s knowledge of “whatever”, thus providing individual cumulative
benefits.
Funny what 'frustration' can do to your mind huh? That's just Calfie...
Hi. Same Old Drama, Different Day. This blog is about me and others, nature, life, blah blah and why everything I like is great even the hurting - still great. If you disagree with anything you find on this page, Well. . . You are probably right..
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